1st AD kids cope with extensions
“Where have you been? We missed you,” asks a note on an unfinished welcome home poster.
The poster, and other signs made by anxious students at Bad Nauheim and Butzbach elementary schools in Germany, won’t be going up anytime soon.
The posters were one way children of 1st Armored Division soldiers in the Friedberg community had been preparing for their parents’ homecoming, many of whom were due back in May.
Summer vacations had been planned and many families were simply looking forward to being whole again, said Tawnya Moreno, a 1st AD spouse who works in the Butzbach Elementary School office.
But with the recent announcement of an extension of up to 120 days in Iraq for the 1st AD, those plans have been put on hold.
“We had to rip all [the posters] down at 7 a.m. Monday morning,” said Stephen Markway, Butzbach’s guidance counselor. “We had a field day planned with dads and an open house planned for dads and families.”
Schools resumed classes last Monday after the week-long spring break, which has given students a renewed sense of normalcy. The schools’ principals hope to capitalize on that in the coming weeks.
“Basically, we are focusing on just keeping the kids engaged, focusing on their schoolwork and concentrating on what’s going on within this building,” said Bad Neuheim principal Charlie Ragland, who added that 85 percent of the school’s pupils have at least one parent deployed.
“I realized right away that I was going to have to keep them busy,” said Anita Harvin, fourth-grade teacher at Bad Nauheim. “Some of [the pupils] are verbal about what’s going on and they’ll bring it up at whatever time they feel they need to talk. Some are angry, some are sad and some are scared.”
Both schools have crisis intervention groups and have recently implemented student support teams, made up of teachers, guidance counselors, school nurses and psychologists.
While crisis intervention teams are designed to address issues that have a serious emotional impact on the school population, be it the death of a student, a teacher or other tragedy, the student support teams focus on the individual student.
A child referred to the team with behavioral or academic problems may also have a deployed parent.
“The parents’ emotions are reflected in their children,” Moreno said. “If Mom is up and happy, the kids are happy. But if Mom is upset and crying or just not with it, then the kids are, too.”
While troops downrange may be experiencing burnout, spouses on the homefront are suffering a similar kind of exhaustion, which can be impossible to ignore.
“To be quite honest with you … it honestly felt like someone punched me in the gut,” said Moreno, when she heard that her husband, Staff Sgt. Mario Moreno, would be extended.
And for the many children whose dads are gone, a whole new issue emerges in Friedberg and other 1st AD communities — the lack of male role models.
“What I have found to be increasingly difficult is being a surrogate father to 300 some children,” said Markway, who spends his lunch visiting students in the cafeteria. “There are not a lot of male resources in this community for kids to turn to.”